Gurudev writes to a couple about harmonious handling of challenges in a marriage :
It was a pleasure to receive both the invitation cards for your marriage. May Jagadeeswara’s blessings be ever upon you both and all that are yours.
Whatever Lord does to us has each its own message to us. To recognise it and to live joyously is spiritual life. To confuse it as His unkindness is our delusion and ignorance.
Be grateful to those who out of their love and vanity gave you both so much of agony. But you both have stood the test beautifully. Siva-Siva! This has been a training to know how both of you together can face any amount of challenges in life.
This is true meaning and purpose of marriage. Material and worldly ups and downs are to be expected. They come and go. In their stormy play when you are holding firmly your hands together each can give to the other a steady balance.
This is the significance when Hindus consider their wife as SAHA-DHARMA-CHARINI = A companion to live together in DHARMA.